Valentine’s Day: Love It, Hate It, or Just Survive It?
Ah, Valentine’s Day. The one day a year where love is either celebrated, tolerated, or completely dreaded. If you’re in a relationship, February 14th can feel like a high-stakes test. Get it right, and you’re a romantic hero. Get it wrong, and you’re suddenly the villain in a Hallmark tragedy.
So, let’s talk about the good, the bad, and how to actually make this day work for your relationship—without unnecessary pressure, forced gestures, or last-minute gas station flowers. (Yeah, I see you. . .)
The Good: When Valentine’s Day Actually Works
A Reason to Prioritize Your Relationship – Life is busy. Sometimes, we need a nudge to slow down and focus on each other. Valentine’s can be a great excuse to reconnect, especially for high-achieving couples who are always “too busy.”
Intentional Romance – Love needs tending. Thoughtful gestures—whether it’s a handwritten note, a surprise date, or even just uninterrupted quality time—can reignite that spark and remind you why you chose each other in the first place.
Fun & Playfulness – Relationships thrive on joy. A little lighthearted celebration, a cheesy rom-com, or even making fun of the commercialism together can bring some laughter and connection.
The Bad: When Valentine’s Day Goes Off the Rails
The Expectation Trap – “If they really loved me, they’d just know what I want.” Nope. Your partner is not a mind reader. High, unspoken expectations are the fastest way to disappointment!
Comparing Your Relationship to Others – Scrolling through social media on Valentine’s? Big mistake. People post their highlight reels, not their real love stories. No need to measure your relationship against someone else’s curated romance.
Forced & Inauthentic Gestures – If your partner hates grand gestures, forcing a big romantic production isn’t going to land well. Authenticity over obligation. Always. Also, if your relationship is not going well, forcing a romantic gesture can backfire. . . Better to take the opportunity to talk about scheduling some relationship coaching!
How to Actually Make Valentine’s Work (For You)
Communicate Before the Day – Have an honest conversation about what you both want (or don’t want) to do. No assumptions, no last-minute pressure.
Make It Personal – Skip the generic and lean into what actually makes your relationship unique. If that’s ordering pizza and playing board games instead of fine dining—go for it.
Keep Perspective – One day doesn’t define your relationship. The small, everyday efforts matter way more than a single night of flowers and chocolates.
Final Thought:
Valentine’s Day is just a day. Love, however, is built in the ordinary moments—the ones that don’t need heart-shaped boxes or fancy dinner reservations to be meaningful.
So whether you love it, hate it, or just survive it—remember, real love isn’t about February 14th. It’s about what you do on all the other days that really counts.
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