The Surprising Reason High-Achieving Couples Divorce More
Did you know. . .
that couples who earn $20,000 or less argue less than couples wo earn $250,000 or more? Keep Reading!
Research also shows that high-achieving couples are 50% more likely to divorce than the rest of the population.
University of Chicago research found out that when women earn more money than men, those unions are more likely to end in divorce.
Ideally, they are perfectly positioned to create a wonderful life together. Yet, they are more likely to divorce than a less successful couple.
The Problem. . .
I have been working with high achieving couples for 30 years as a licensed marriage and family therapist.
I have seen that unless couples address the underlying problem, they are likely to divorce.
I have also seen that with the right help, these couples can grow and achieve a highly successful marriage and a hugely satisfying life.
Obviously, every couple and every situation is personal.
However, I want to share one common behavior that catapults high-achieving couples into a negative cycle.
THE SURPRISING REASON. . .
The surprising reason high achieving couples head for divorce is that the majority of their communication is negative.
They’re working long hours and are often tired, stressed and overwhelmed.
They blame and resent the other person for what’s going on.
Couples in this cycle can spend up to 80% of their time caught in negative communication.
This situation can be so stressful that I have seen couples separating after just six months. Others can live like this for 10 years before separating.
Years of tension takes its toll and people can develop serious disorders such as anxiety and depression.
Their careers invariably suffer as they lose their drive and their energy.
Take action
Separation and divorce is not inevitable. You can have a hugely successful marriage, career and life when you are both high-achievers.
It will take awareness of the potential problems and a clear plan to succeed.
It will probably require you to get expert outside help and invest in your marriage.
People can leave it too late. Sometimes they come to me after years of conflict and the relationship is simply too damaged to be rescued.
reach out. . .
If this strikes a chord, reach out to me.
Let’s identify how you can achieve a highly successful marriage that supports your success.